My favourite Disney movie growing up wasn’t Cinderella (who wants to clean all day and then lose a shoe) or Sleeping Beauty (fall asleep and then wait for a prince to show up: pass!), it was Mary Poppins. She’s good at her job, gets sh*t done, talks to animals, is super nice but doesn’t take any crap from anyone. She commands respect. When the wind turns, she knows it’s time to move on. Sure, she’s pretty but that doesn’t define her. Her accomplishments do. The original 1964 movie wasn’t a fairy tale, it was a modern day story – there’s even a part about the suffragette movement.

Women have been told to look pretty, be nice, wear makeup, have pretty clothes, get married, have babies, then lose all the weight and get back in shape 10 days after giving birth. No wonder we have so much self-hate when it comes our bodies. Guys can have a beer belly and be bald, and not have a care in the world. If stiletto heels had been created for men, they would have been laughed out of business. Men don’t wear uncomfortable shoes you can’t walk in. They basically get up, eat, brush their teeth, take a shower, put on a shirt, jeans, and sneakers, and off they go to rule the world.

It’s time for women to start thinking like dudes and be less critical of their own bodies. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean not wanting to improve. But don’t self-hate. Wear what makes you feel good. Do things for yourself. Unfollow people who make you feel less worthy. Surround yourself by people who truly love you, not your looks.

You don’t need bigger boobs or a nose job or whatever you think you need to fix externally to make you happy inside. You don’t need the 24-step paleo coconut-milk colon-spraying cleanse. You need self-confidence. Without it, no matter what you wear or how accomplished you are, you’ll always believe you’re not pretty enough or competent enough. And that’s a recipe for failure.

Instead of looking for flaws and things of nitpick, think of the many ways you’re awesome. Give yourself high-fives every day. Thinking you’re fabulous doesn’t make you a delusional brat, it gets you in a positive mindset which you need to have success. Don’t just believe in your business or the project you are working on, believe in yourself too.